Immature Hiearchies

Saturday, January 5th 2013

To a child, the parent is an all powerful entity. The parent shows the child what to do and who to be. The child's moods are often contingent on parental approval or approbation. Moreover, what the child learns is based more on the what the parent does, rather than on what the parent says. Morgan Freeman:

By and large children do not listen to what you say, by and large children watch what you do - and that's how you teach.

The parent-child relationship is a formative experience for most people.

So when a person grows up and has new relationships, particularly power-relationship, that initial parental relationship is very influential.

  • parent-child
  • lover-loved
  • teacher-student
  • wife-husband
  • husband-wife
  • boss-employee
  • God-believer
  • ruler-subject
  • government-business
  • business-government
  • etc

For instance:

  • A person often behaves parentally towards those over whom she has authority;
  • A person often behaves childishly towards those who have power over her.

What "parentally" and "childishly" look like depends on the nature of that first, formative parental relationship.

For example.

By "parentally" it might mean she takes "responsibility"; only she knows the full picture; only she understands the real world - the "adult" view. The child (the person over whom she had authority) does not. Somehow the child has an incomplete understanding of the world, it is partial, the product of immaturity. It is dangerous to let the child make her own decisions!

Equally, people often take on the role of child when they are faced with authority. Every time somebody asks for a pay rise or gets angry with a manager, owner, or boss, they often behave childishly. "I want this! I want that! I deserve this! My boss doesn't love me! I want more!" They don't take full responsibility; the parent does things for them, they do not see the parent (the boss, for instance) as a peer, but rather as a source of sustenance, support, approval, disapproval, etc. They do not have to an adult relationship with the parent-boss!

There are many other possibilities, of course.

Indeed, most hierarchies are essentially a tree of parent-child relationships of various kinds. So most hierarchies are emotionally immature organisation structures prone in bouts of hysteria!

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